It’s good for them?

I've decided that I have got to get my family to read this book. I've been wondering how to accomplish that for a week or so now. This morning it just came to me. My older sister has always tried to "understand" me because I'm different than her and my younger sister. The difference, that I see now, is that in the codependent world, I am the caregiver and my dad and my siblings are the "alcoholics." I think my mom is also a caregiver, but I think it's a role she was forced into, not one she was raised in.

I was thinking, in the spirit of trying to "understand" me, I could suggest they read this book. Hopefully when they read it, they'll start looking for me in the pages and end up seeing themselves.

I just had a thought though… by doing it this way, am I trying to control them? The thing is, if they aren't in the stage of their life that they're receptive to this, they won't want to read it. If I don't tell them it's for me, they won't read it… I mostly think of my dad. His dad was horrible and I really think he'd benefit by reading this book, but it'll make him get into his feelings and so he won't read it unless he thinks he's doing it to help me.

GAH! I don't know what to do now! I thought I was all clever this morning, but now I just wonder if I'm controlling and manipulating. :( Maybe I'll call my mom…

B

**Update**

So after talking with my mom, I kept getting the feeling that I need to sit down with my dad and basically have a heart to heart.  A year ago, this would have freaked me out, but now?  I feel so calm and open and... backed by Heavenly Father.  I think this is what He wants me to do and I am once again so very grateful for these past steps in my life that I am in a place that He can work through me.

My parents will be home next Tuesday, Wednesday night I'm going to go visit.  I'll worry about my sisters later, right now, it's all about my dad.

B